What to Do When Your Life Sucks – {6 Easy Things You Can do Today!}

“Choose your thing. What do you plan to do?”

So your life stinks? Join the millions of others that are in this club. There are a whole lot of people who aren’t happy with their lives. So what do you do when your life sucks?

Here are 6 easy things you can do right now that will help you.

1 – Stop Lying to Yourself.

Your brain doesn’t like lies! You know your life sucks. Stop lying to yourself and admit it. It’s alright. Life isn’t what you’d thought it would be. You can’t do a single thing about it… until you admit it. Lying gets you nowhere except stuck in a big, giant pit of denial and regret.

Now… Take out a sheet of paper. At the top, write. “My life sucks.” – Good job! 😊

2 – Stop the Comparative Paralysis.

The existence of starving people some where in the world does not make your life suck less. Forward movement makes your life suck less. Comparing your life to others just leaves you in a state of comparative paralysis. Stop it!

Stop it right now.

The only person I want you comparing yourself to is YOU. Compare what you said you would do to what you’re actually doing. That’s it.

Now, go back to your sheet of paper. Below, “My life sucks,” write “It has nothing to do with starving children around the world.” – Thank you! ✔️

3 – Become Empowered.

What’s the opposite of being stuck? Being empowered to move! Now that you’re not stuck in the giant mud-pit of denial, you can do something. So whatcha wanna do?!

How about anything. Any tiny bit of action is better than none, as long as it’s in the right direction. So, think of one, small positive action you can take. Here are a few examples:

• Take a daily walk 5 days in a row, even if it’s just to my mailbox.

• Wake up before 6 am everyday for 7 days… including weekends.

• Take a shower and get dressed, even if I’m not leaving the house.

• Apply for 10 jobs this week.

• Make a plan (a real one… with actionable steps) for leaving my current job.

• Address the emptiness in my relationship.

• Give myself 10 minutes of quiet each day.

• Write one thing I’m grateful for each day for the next week.

• Let out my anger by throwing repeatedly throwing my pillow onto my bed, until I am no longer embarrassed to do so. – Yes, I went there! 👈

• Tell someone the truth, even if it’s myself.

• Look in the mirror, smile, and tell myself, “I can do this.”

Listen, I know life sucks right now. I would say to remember this is only a temporary situation, but I don’t know that. It could very well be something you’ll be dealing with for the rest of your life. But, I want you to remember that action brings empowerment and empowerment brings confidence with him every time.

So, instead of stopping at “My life sucks,” I want you to continue by saying “My life sucks… and this is what I choose to do about it.”

Okay. Let’s get it done. Choose your thing. What do you plan to do? Got it? – Now, return to your handy sheet of paper and under your “starving children” statement add: “My life sucks and this is what I choose to do about it. I will __________.” – I’m so proud of you. How’s it feel? ❤️

4 – Let Go of the Results and Grab Onto the Action.

But, Rachel, you don’t understand. Taking a walk isn’t going to solve my problems. I have real problems. My life is a disaster!

Friend, I’m not trying to solve your problems. You’ll always have problems. Everybody does.

I’m trying to give you HOPE. I’m trying to change your mindset. What you’re getting is a skill, not some action that is meant to only solve one troubling aspect of your life. I’m teaching you how to survive and thrive when your life stinks.

One of the biggest things I want you to learn is to let go of the things you can’t control. You don’t control the results. You never have. You just thought you did.

5 – Find Honest Truths.

Just because I told you to stop lying to yourself doesn’t mean you can’t talk to yourself. Self-talk is so important when life stinks. A good pep talk can really get you out of the dumps. It’s just really important that the stuff you tell yourself makes it past your brain’s lie detector… so tell yourself some good honest truths.

They’re all over the place. What do you believe that’s good, wholesome, and true? Tell yourself that. Write it down. Carry it with you in your pocket. Take it to your dashboard. Tack it to your walls. Act like these truths are the most important message in the world.

As a Christian, I often remind myself that this is not my home. It won’t always be easy, and it won’t always work out this side of heaven. And, that’s okay. Remembering this gives me peace.

What gives you peace? What reassures you? Here are a few truths you may want to use as inspiration:

• I am loved and not forsaken.

• The circumstances of my life do not change my value, nor my blessed status.

• Nothing can separate me from the love of God.

• I am not my mistakes.

• This may be a permanent situation, but these are temporary emotions. I will not feel this way forever.

• I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

• I can do hard things.

• All things are working together for my good.

Still got that piece of paper in front of you? I want you to add, “I choose to believe” and then write your truth statement. Now, stop. Get up, and post this someplace prominent; your bathroom mirror, fridge, kitchen cabinet, or a wall you see everyday.

You got this!

6 – Remember That You’re Not Alone.

Friend, every time you see that piece of paper, I want you to remember that you’re not alone. You’re not. So many people feel like their life just isn’t what they want it to be. But, you ARE in the minority. You are in the minority of people who have the guts to admit where they are and to do something about it. I’m so proud of you!

You CAN do this!